ABIRL

I have an on-call job, so it would be pretty irritating if I finally get some sleep, and she gives me a reach-around and wakes me up. Another question would be, would you finish what you started? It's not that much of a hassle if she wants to taste my dick in bed, but if she left me blue-balled...No, just no.

Define "abuse" and "at night." Are you referring to an s/o that likes to play rough during intimacy or like someone who has a habit of scratching my back while we're asleep? A general answer to both would be, it depends on the person and their limits, though I'd like to say that consent and safety should be the biggest priorities. If you want to lightly bite on my shoulder it's probably not a big deal, but if you're tightly grabbing my balls out of nowhere, then we're going to have a problem. Also, avoid leaving any marks in noticeable areas. It is true that friends affect behavior, but rarely to the extent of influencing someone of sound mind to cheat while in a healthy and stable relationship. I feel that most of the influence falls into benign categories such as "What video game are we going to play for the next 3 months?" or "What's a nice place to take my girlfriend out for the evening?" If you were dating someone who had a group of friends who are known to frequently and actively cheat on their current partner, and the guy thinks something along the lines of, "Oh, well all my friends are doing it, therefore, I can and should also do it," then I would say that the guy's friends aren't the problem, it would be the guy's mentality. For example. one of my closest friends, guy I knew from back in high school, frequently dates around, checks tinder even when dating someone loosely, and acts without tact (such as breaking up with the girl on her birthday). Every single time we've met up and talked about his escapades, I always call him out on being a douche bag, because clearly, he acts the role. The actions of my peers does not and should not affect my morality and neither are their actions ever a justification for me to act outside what I believe is right. It is not difficult to discern between my behavior and the behavior of others (regardless of where they stand in my life). I think any reasonable person can come to this conclusion so long as they have the perception to know how to filter the influences of those around them. [Edited for typos]